As on a regular basis, we’ve seen fantastic reader tales inside the suggestions half, and we would have liked to share the love. Here are 12 reader suggestions on residing your biggest life…
On meals traditions:
“My partner and I have taken to buying a fancy new cheese once a month, then eating it in a bath together. The catch is that our tub is tiny and we are tall, so it adds a dash of sheer hilarity as we try to origami our limbs together without throwing out our backs. Anything for cheese.” — Allie
“I’m Eurasian, nevertheless don’t talk Cantonese, like my mother’s family. I’m moreover white-passing. I grew up with plenty of folks doubting my heritage: ‘Really?! You’re Chinese? Are you optimistic? You don’t really look Chinese. I suppose inside the eyes…’ One of the one strategies I’d ‘prove’ my Asian-ness was by the best way by which I ate. Chicken’s toes? Yes. Jellyfish? Yes. Dousing all of the items with purple vinegar? Yes. That even turned the joke with my family: ‘She may not speak Chinese. She may not look Chinese. But she can sure eat Chinese!’ — Meghan
“To celebrate my retirement a couple years ago, I invited 25 friends to a toast party where we would ‘eat toast and make toasts.’ I had three toasters set up, several loaves of good bread and various toppings (both sweet and savory), juice, coffee and tea. It was a big success and easy to set up. The self-service aspect meant I could mingle with my guests.” — Hattie
On embracing your physique:
“I’m about to elope in the ‘biggest’ body I’ve ever been in. (Thanks ‘love’ pounds!) The back of my mind wants to obsess and over-exercise before the big day. I have flashes of cold feet, wondering if I should postpone it for a year, just to see if I’m more fit by then. But then the other half of my brain realizes how ridiculous, shallow, and self-absorbed the first, self-sabotaging half of my brain sounds. As an extra push for me to accept this fiancé-loving body I’m in, I’m getting my first ever boudoir photoshoot prior to the jump.” — Nicole
“I’ve realized recently that I see my body and its functions as a little kid — innocent and just kind of there. If I eat too much and exercise too little, it gets a bit smooshy and my hip goes wonky. Not my body’s fault! I eat crap and get zits — not my skin’s fault! So, when I hear people say they hate their bodies, I feel so sad, like they’re saying they hate an innocent kid. I want to say, PLEASE please don’t hate your body! It’s just there; you gotta love and take care of it because it loves YOU.” — Agnes
On canine rituals:
“I’m in Oregon and walk our golden retriever at least a couple times a day. I don’t wear earbuds — I like to hear his dog tags jangle; the clickety-clack of his paws on pavement; the rapid way his nose sniffs when he catches a scent; the view of his fluffy butt and feathery tail swishing back and forth.” — Jennifer
(*12*) — Jules
On completely totally different chapters:
“The most amazing woman I have ever known retired from a journalism career at 62 and promptly enrolled in law school. She practiced law until she was 94 and died a year later. It is never too late.” — Libbynanhttps://cupofjo.com/2021/04/weekend-links-spring-2021/
“At 43, I decided I was going to learn how to ride a bike. I’d had a difficult childhood, during which I just shelved it. But on my 43rd birthday, I decided I was done avoiding it and got a bike. I fell, I was scared and embarrassed, but I did it. Now I can ride my bike and it means so much more to me than if I would have learned as a kid.” — J.
“I’ve always wanted to be a writer, but I let a fear of vulnerability, or failure, or an uncertain career path talk me out of it. But this year, I’m writing all the time! I told myself that I’m a writer if I write — who cares about all the other stuff like readership, publishing, even a career change. With all that pressure off, I’m having the most fun finding my voice, thinking of just wild, silly things I can write about.”
On loving your self and others:
“Just a few of my most treasured practices are:
– Putting my hand on my associate’s again proper after I end up the lights at night time and pondering of the methods I’m grateful for him.
– When I’m with my toddler, I’ll generally remind myself to simply be absolutely current in his tiny delightfulness. I’ll run my finger alongside his ear, arm, chubby fingers, excellent toes (and so on, and so on, and so on) and assume to myself ‘I made this.’
Both of this stuff assist floor me, which has been actually useful over this previous yr once I discover myself ruminating over the previous/future.” — C.
“I discovered a ‘trick’ years ago to help give value to myself. It involves visualizing my future self holding tight to my present self. We often talk about taking care of our inner child, and it helps right? Well, if I can make my former self feel understood and loved, then I can imagine my future self caring for me right now this very moment. It’s the giving and receiving of love from these past and future selves that truly makes me feel less unsure. Growth never stops.” — Stacy
What would you add to the itemizing?
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