Cup of Jo has been working for 14 years (!) so we’ve determined that once in a while, we’ll be highlighting a number of the hottest posts from the previous. Here’s one in all our favorites, initially printed on November 20, 2018.
Alex and I not too long ago celebrated our marriage ceremony anniversary, and my huge query of the night time was…
Should I put on heels? Alex is 5’8″ and I’m 5’6″, so once I put on heels, I’m barely taller. As seen in sitcoms and films and actuality TV, there’s typically a societal expectation that girls ought to be shorter than their companions, and it was ingrained in me as I stood at my closet debating footwear. But, then, my second query was: WHO CARES?
My good friend Emma, of Books Are Magic fame, is an inch taller than her husband. Sometimes I name Mike my brief stack of pancakes,” she informed me. “I truly don’t think about it anymore. My last boyfriend was even shorter! I suppose I always think of being tall and voluptuous as being sort of goddessy, and who would mind feeling goddessy? Not me.”
Jana and Colin, who’ve been married for nearly eight years, have a two-inch peak distinction (she’s 5’10” to his 5’8″). “When we were first dating, he asked, ‘Is it okay that I’m not taller than you are?’ Of course, it didn’t matter. He was a person I wanted to spend time with. He’s so confident and funny and goofy.”
The solely time it felt odd was for a second at their marriage ceremony. “We had a great photographer, but she had go-to poses for couples, and I remember some of them felt awkward. She kept wanting me to put my head on his shoulder, and I’m like, my head is bending really far down and it feels really weird.”
Caroline is three inches taller than her girlfriend, Leah. “I don’t really notice the difference,” she says, “but I also posture myself when standing next to her (leaning on one hip, for example) to be more level with her. The only time it comes up is for formal events. Now I consider flats because it makes it easier to dance together.”
Brooke Williams is 5 inches taller than her husband, Josh. “I never thought I’d marry someone shorter than me, though at 5’11”, I’m undecided why the likelihood had by no means crossed my thoughts,” she informed me. “But then I met Josh, and all relative height considerations flew right out the window. I don’t remember being bothered by it or even thinking about it at all. Though every once in a while when I see us in the mirror I am taken aback by how much I loom over him. Plus, my hair doesn’t help!”
Franny and her girlfriend, Kerry, are precisely the identical peak. “We’re actually the same size in everything — down to our bra size! This comes in handy when packing for trips, since we can share a suitcase. I do wear heels way more than she does, though. It’s fun to play ‘tall person’ every now and then, and having her rest her head on my shoulder is weirdly romantic.”
Who is aware of, possibly cultural norms are loosening up? I used to be not too long ago watching previous episodes of The New Girl (as a result of Nick), and the character Cece began courting a shorter man. And I beloved that the present didn’t point out their peak distinction in any respect. It was an entire non-issue.
Of course, there are some well-known real-life examples, too. The Obamas are neck and neck — Barack is 6’1″ and Michelle is 5’11”. When she’s in excessive heels, she’s taller. And she’s PERFECT.
Pharrell Williams is 2 inches shorter than his 5’11” spouse Helen Lasichanh.
At 5’5″, Tina Fey and her husband Jeff Richmond are the identical peak, however she’s taller in heels…
And Portia de Rossi and Ellen DeGeneres!
What about you? Do you care about peak when courting? Does it really feel difficult? What experiences have you ever had? I’d love to listen to…
P.S. My sister’s superior courting tip.