“My life pie includes—I’m just going to draw it while I’m talking—family and friends. Body: somatic experiencing, trauma recovery. Spirit: It’s really silence. With three children under 11, I’ve been known to go into my closet a lot. I’ve written songs in my closet on the ground in the dark. If I’m going to a television studio anywhere in the world, my first question is usually, ‘Is there a room with a door that I can close? Where I can go for a few minutes just to catch my breath, recharge my batteries.’
“Then there’s being expressed. So a lot of my despair comes from my not expressing unhappiness, grief, and anger. Usually, a grief or a loneliness, or some false thought that acquired into my thoughts actually, actually younger and I simply stored believing it, although it was by no means true. Feeling that I’ve processed sufficient is essential, and that may embody venting with pals, feeling expressed artistically, designing one thing.
“Marriage is a big one. It’s tough with three kids, but my husband, Souleye, and I try to sneak away as much as possible.
“Being on prime of my enterprise and funds: I really feel like [the] patriarchy simply pats girls on the top— particularly artists. I’ve been shamed for taking care of my cash and shamed for not taking care of my cash. You cannot win! So I simply preserve displaying up.
“Brain rest: binge-watching TV. Floating, wandering time. Mind wandering. As an artist and someone who loves to philosophize, I can’t get those ‘messages,’ for lack of a better term, if everything is jam-packed, including my mind and environment. So just time to sit. Easier said than done last year with three kids schooling at home—my eyes are crossed!
“Another one is to guarantee that I’m within the public eye being of service. I even have every baby in one of many life pies.
“Grooming: That’s a big one for me. And God bless, having a newborn and breastfeeding, taking a shower once in a while is a massive luxury.
“I’m a little bit of a vital oil apothecary alchemist. Breath work is admittedly highly effective for me too, as a result of shallow breath simply retains sending a message to my mind that I’m in a relentless fight-or-flight state of emergency. I line up 5 bottles of scrumptious important oils and then do deep breaths with every one. Sometimes I really feel like passing out, however that breath work is life-giving. Penny Frances Apothecary makes really stunning merchandise, [like] the Rose Geranium and Hibiscus Botanical Mist. Living Libations by Nadine Artemis: She guidelines. And balms! I’m a balm queen. One I like is by Monastery—the Attar Floral Repair Concentrate.