Wearing bonnets is such a young, interconnected factor for lots of Black ladies and femmes and nobody deserves a proof for it. Our hair is advanced and exquisite. It takes love and a spotlight — there are some days that every one we have now the capability for is a bonnet! And let’s be fucking clear, a bonnet isn’t any completely different than a hat or a beret or a durag or a cute scarf. It is a protecting head overlaying. Other folks have assigned the bonnet to be an indoor, rattling close to shameful accent, and Black ladies are speculated to bow to that project.
Black ladies ought to and should have the autonomy to indicate up in this world in no matter manner they select. If meaning sporting a bonnet to the airport, dentist’s workplace, or to choose up their infants, so be it. I ponder if folks had been this mad on the Black ladies who wore bonnets to vote after we saved Georgia’s ass? I ponder if folks care about ladies who work and serve the general public in their bonnets? Or are folks solely in condemning Black ladies after we’re occupying areas of consolation and luxurious? Or after we’re in the general public minding our stunning, Black, bonnet-wearing enterprise?
I believe it is necessary for Black ladies to have the liberty to put on a bonnet in public as a result of, why not? White ladies can present as much as Zoom conferences sweaty with their hair in a bun after being on a Peloton for an hour. Yet, we’re anticipated to stroll in everybody else’s concept of excellence.
I do know loads of ladies who put on bonnets exterior of their dwelling who’re excellent enterprise folks, activists, companions, dad and mom, and educators. To negate that as a result of these folks don’t love our hair protector? Literally, get the fuck out of right here. This is respectability politics at its core and, I might be remiss if I did not point out the privilege I’ve as a lighter-skinned Black girl, in sporting my bonnet exterior. People would possibly speak about me as soon as I’m exterior of their presence, however they definitely do not deal with me the best way I do know a few of my darker-skinned sisters get handled.
I see folks posting pics on the airport or on the grocery retailer [of women wearing bonnets] with out their consent and it is normally a darkish, dark-skinned girl being talked about. Baby… I do know colorism and misogynoir once I see it. All in all, go away Black femmes alone, we all know what we’re doing and we additionally know it is solely a matter of time earlier than a white particular person will get funding to create a “viral” bonnet assortment or earlier than we see bonnets in editorial tales. So till then, for those who see us in Target, on the canine groomer, on a aircraft to the Amalfi coast, or on the practice to Harlem in our bonnets, go away. Us. Alone.