When you are in a bizarre gender place, particularly with a shaved head, for some individuals who simply need to be seen as both masculine or void of gender, it’s so liberating to be like, “I can take this away. Look at me in this way.” I’ve gotten to a place the place, the extra I discuss gender and transfer extra into a nonbinary house, the extra I will be like, “How do I want to feel pretty?” Because earlier than it was not about being fairly, it was about being seen in any respect, seen in any context, and wanting to be acknowledged.
I’ve gotten to a place the place there’s one haircut that seems like residence. It’s laborious to describe to individuals, but it surely’s a spherical crop — and, no, I do not need a ladies’s haircut, however I do not need a man’s haircut, and I do not need it shaved. It has to be this completely layered factor. Where it seems like house is once you get to advocate for your self. I’ve been transferring away from, “How can I make my hair do whatever I want it to do?” and nearer to “How can I celebrate what it’s already doing?”
In magnificence college, I had a UIC freshman who had are available after her first breakup. She got here in and stated she needed to totally bleach her hair and put any fantasy shade in it. The approach she was simply so captivated with being in Chicago and being away from her hometown — it was that younger, infectious queer power that I felt. It jogged my memory of me. It was somebody who might see themselves on-line and wanted to put themselves, geographically, the place they may work all of it out.
Somaya (any pronouns)
I had fairly brief hair rising up, and after I received to a sure age, I felt like I had to have lengthy hair, you already know, cuz femininity and all. And after I got here out, I particularly needed lengthy hair as a result of I didn’t need to be stereotyped. But then I bear in mind at some point, I used to be understanding and searching in the mirror, and I assumed, “This doesn’t feel right anymore.” So for the subsequent month, I debated and requested everybody I knew. So I received it minimize, and that was a good coiffure, however as soon as it was brief, I used to be far more comfy experimenting via totally different sorts of brief hair, and I’ve gotten to a extra masculine journey with my hair.